Ron Shiver
Many of you may have noticed that I have not been around much over the past several days. I apologize if you have tried to get in touch with me, as I have not responded to e-mails, Tweets, etc since Saturday night.
My father unexpectedly passed away Sunday morning. After going to sleep Sunday around midnight, he had two consecutive heart attacks in his sleep. He was only 52.
At approximately 6:45 am on Sunday a Sheriffs Deputy phoned me and told me I needed to get to my parent's house as soon as possible, but would not give me any details. Upon arriving the deputy let me know me father had passed away and then led me into the house where I found my mother in tears. I've never seen my mother or sister cry so hard in my life. The strangest thing is that until I phoned Liz I had been unable to cry. As soon as I actually had to say aloud that he had passed away I began to cry uncontrollably. Almost as if saying those words finally made it true.
Due to the fact that he was young and had no previous health problems the medical examiner was required to do an autopsy. That and the holiday caused us to be unable to make funeral arrangements until Wednesday and for the services to be pushed back until this coming Sunday.
This week has been one of the most horrible experiences of my life, thus far. If not for Liz, and my sister's boyfriend, Patrick, I do not know how we would have made it this far. While there are still tough times ahead I wanted to take a moment to get online and let everyone know why I have been absent, and will be for a while longer.
I will miss my father very much. I already do. He was one of the nicest guys you'd ever want to have met. He had a big heart and a kind soul. He would do anything for you, and if he liked you you were sure to be teased and picked on. The world lost a wonderful man, and an amazing father and husband on December 23, 2007.
7 comments:
Adam, I'm sorry that I wasn't able to be around longer today, but just as you've indicated, my reaction was very similar. The entire week was more of a 'shock' to me, and the true feeling didn't set in until we left the room and I spoke with you, your sister, and your mother. Please let me know if there's anything I may do to assist.
-adrian
Honey, I worked with your father many years ago, and again on a recent project. We'd just spoken rather extensively on the project on 12/20. Ron was a delight to work with, and provided professional, quality support on the projects we shared. I and many others at work are deeply saddened by this news, and want to offer comfort and support to the Shiver family. You're in our thoughts and prayers.
Cindy Sayers-Lane.
I wanted to let you and your family know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I have known your Dad for a number of years and he has always been kind but very straight forward. That is a rare combination in our business. I will miss him very much.
Peggy Apjoke
Adam, I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. I lost my dad 10 years ago and know what you are going through. Know my prayers for comfort and support are with you and your family.
Adam... I occasionally worked with your father over the years. We always had lively, sarcastic banter, ribbing each other in good fun, so I have great memories of him. I'm terribly sorry for your family's loss.
The world lose nothing, it still have you, because he will resist forever in your own heart.
try to think that it is not a matter of "he was too young", perhaps try: Buddha (ot your own belief) needed him badly somewhere else.
Hugs, bro
Daniel, Buenos Aires, Argentina
Adam, you don't know me but I write to offer my condolences. I am a fellow Rapidweaver user and I have admired your work. I read about your father's passing on Real Mac Software's site. The death of a parent is a rite of passage that we must all go through; some sooner than others. I am sorry it was so sudden for you.
I lost my father when he was only 57. Way too young. It was 9 years ago next month, and it feels like yesterday. The pain will subside, trust me, but it will take time. I miss my dad every day, not being able to call to talk, or ask advice; the sound of his voice, his smile, etc. I regret the times not spent, the things not said. You may feel some of this, it is all normal. This is not an easy thing to go through but life can and will go on.
All I can offer is "remember the good times." Soon enough you will see or hear something that will remind you of your dad, and you will smile.
Best wishes to you and your family.
D. Jefferson
Newark, Delaware
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